The Importance of Date Nights

This is something  I genuinely wonder about on a day to day basis… How do relationships survive without date nights? Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying my relationship would fall apart if Danny and I stopped going out and having days where we get out and do things. But I really could see our relationship being a lot less enjoyable if that were to happen. I’m not saying we go on mad, over the top, extravagant day trips or activity days. But we do try to get out of the house and on the weekends we are rarely in the house. We might just do something simple like go for a walk or on a trip to browse a market, nothing very expensive.

Whilst I work a good job and Danny earns enough to survive renting a place to live, we aren’t exactly extremely well off. We manage though, without depriving ourselves of the things we like and at the weekend we allow ourselves our little luxuries. One of the tricks that allow us to afford this is being clever with money during the week.

Every Monday is Game of Thrones and Super Mario night. Danny will come over to mine to watch the newest Game of Thrones episode and play the Wii. On these days I would normally make dinner and we would get some junk food in. Either that or we would order in Dominos Pizza. The Dominos near my house is brilliant. The staff are friendly and helpful and always willing to honour the 50% off online offers. Unfortunately this was not the case with Danny’s local Dominos so we had to stop ordering from there.

We would normally see each other again later in the week, you can’t keep us apart, and again one of us would buy and make dinner as part of our weekly shop.

Then our weekend is all our own with minimal watching of the pennies.

Another great thing is that my local cinema only charges €6 to see any movie on a Wednesday, whilst we haven’t availed of this offer yet, it makes for a much cheaper cinema date, especially with so many good movies hitting the big screen over summer.

I think the thing that means Danny and I work is having our Game of Thrones night, which is something to look forward to every week, as well as making sure to get out of the house at the weekend. These are the things that stop relationships getting stale and monotonous. It’s when relationships get stale and monotonous that fights happen. Being able to talk to each other about anything helps too of course.

So this weekend, whether your relationship is exciting as anything or running a bit stale, get dolled up and go for dinner, or pack a picnic and go to the park. Do something that is not mundane and is not part of your normal routine. If you do, let me know how you get on in the comments. Also what do you do with your better half for date night? Comment below! 
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A Post About Loss

Hey Guys!
I’m back after my few weeks off blogging. I know they were sudden and I apologise for that, sometimes in life things happen and you are caught off guard and unprepared. Now don’t get me wrong everything was okay during the time I have taken off but now it has finally sorted itself out and I am back in the swing of things and raring to go. Believe me during the time I was gone I was so annoyed with myself for not blogging and every day I thought about it because blogging has become so much to me and I have promised myself that I won’t let it happen again, so you lot needn’t worry! 
ANYWAY, back to the topic of the day. Today’s post is A Post About Loss. I’m sure a lot of you have seen this YouTube video where I talk about dealing with grief. As a result the whole topic of loss and death and grief has been on my mind for a while now. Having watched that video my cousin sent me a lovely text about it. It was only days later that I found out her Grandmother had passed away. I’m quite close to my cousin and she supports me in a lot that I do so naturally I wanted to go to the funeral to offer her some support. This blog post isn’t about me supporting her though. It is more about something that came to me whilst at the funeral and to be honest it had me thinking for a lot of that morning. 

Basically at the funeral the priest was doing his thing but a lot of the stuff he said really bugged me. It was all like “died suddenly”,  “family are really struggling with it”, “very upset”, “can’t come to terms with it”. A funeral is meant to be a celebration of life and to be honest I don’t think stuff like that is very appropriate to be said at a funeral. Anyone who was there who mattered knew what happened regarding this lady’s death. The family obviously knew it was sudden. They don’t need reminding of this every five to ten minutes. Nor do they need to be TOLD that they are struggling with the loss, very upset or that they can’t come to terms with it. How does that priest know all this? He doesn’t. In some cases, such as with my own Nana, maybe the death was a relief for both the person who died and the family. Maybe they have already come to terms with it.

It just bugged me really. This priest seemed very pessimistic on what, in my opinion, should have been a day filled with a few more happy thoughts. 

Don’t even get me started on the things “well wishers” say to people after funerals. I’ve been to two funerals in the past year and just the things people say, irks me and I don’t think they show any compassion for people’s feelings.

This was just me having a rant really but I would very much like to hear all your thoughts. 

Talk soon and have a great week.

PS. Here is a link for a blog awards I have gotten a couple of nominations for but I’d really appreciate if you could all nominate me. I’d love to go to Oz obviously but tbh this is the best promotion my blog could get and I would love people to know my blog exists and that I am here to offer help and support and advice to those who need it.
You can nominate me here.

ALSO On the topic of advice I have been asked to make a YouTube video discussing how I deal with break ups which I will be filming next weekend so keep an eye out for that!
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