Dear Diary, I mean blog. Yes you have been neglected for a while but for good reason. I was going through a tough time and I needed to spend some time with myself and just be Lynn Jo. I promised I would no longer write for the sake of it and that when I did write it would be because I had something to say or because I was inspired.
Today is that day!!
Below is an something I posted to Instagram not too long ago.
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And it was just something that irked me. To be honest it is something that has bothered me for a number of years, through my experiences with Tinder or dating apps, but today it just came to a head. Who in their right mind opens up someone’s profile and thinks to themselves, “Oh I will ask this girl I have never spoken to if she likes kinky sex”? Like seriously? Why would that thought occur to everyone. Now don’t get me wrong. I know some people are on these sites purely for that. And I don’t condemn that at all. People are fully entitled to be into and look for that. But I find something very off about it being your opening line. Especially when my profile in no way suggests I am looking for No Strings Attached Fun, let alone kinky sex from the get go.
Can I just specify that whilst I am not too sure what I am looking for romantically at the moment I did make an effort with my profile, so that it would attract the right sort of people ie people with similar interests to myself.
But I just really can’t comprehend why that person felt that was an okay message to send. Maybe I will ask him…
I would love to know your opinions on this. Do you think a message like that is okay to send a stranger? Or is it completely crossing a line?