I said I wouldn’t talk about my relationships on here anymore, and I’m not, so if you were expecting some juicy gossip from my love life you can just leave now.
I spend a lot of time alone and in that time I think and contemplate and as a result get myself upset and angry over the stupidest little things. Lately I have noticed that the focus of these thoughts were boys and my future, however I have figured out my future for the most part so the boys are just kind of preoccupying my mind at the moment.
I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND THEM.
There is just so much I don’t get. This is where the rant is going to go off on a tangent so bear with me. I am trying really hard to keep this structured. Actually I am going to write down all the points I am going to discuss.
Right I’ve done that so maybe I might make some sense.
The first thing is boys are ALWAYS TAKEN. Now can I just state that In at least 50% of cases I will talk to a boy first, and that 80% of the time I suggest meeting up. So I’d be chatting away to someone for ages and they would be quite flirty and that… or I’d think they were… or things would just be going well and I would get the impression that they were single and maybe suggest hanging out or swapping numbers or something and they always end up being taken. Not even TAKEN taken though. But seeing someone and they always seem pretty committed. I never seem to get that much attention when I’m doing someone. But it genuinely seems that everyone is shacking up these days. Soon there won’t be anyone left for little old me.
Compare this to the fact that NOT very many boys these days seem to be LOOKING for anything. Everyone who isn’t shacking up is going through some ‘me’ time. Now I can’t talk, I’ve vowed to stay single until 2014 at the earliest in order to have some Lynn time. But all the same I am still keeping the door slightly ajar, after all who doesn’t have the odd day where they just want a cuddle or to lay around and watch movies or just have a chat and a flirt. I thought it was basic human nature to want that from time to time. Guess you’re all happy either being completely off limits or completely alone… from what I can see, anyway, there doesn’t seem to be very much middle ground.
Okay just very quickly to fill you in. I was chatting to my friend the other day about being the whole being single, having ‘me’ time but still wanting some company scenario the other day and we decided to join dating sites in order to liven our lives up a bit and see what happens. It is kind of a bit of fun while we are taking a break from it all. We joined two, Ok Cupid and Plenty of Fish and it is on these sites that I have noticed the following few things. I’ll look at those specific to dating sites first and then I’ll discuss the other point which is just something I observed more from being on the sites, which I am sure applies in person too but I don’t really experience it all that much due to not really being out all that much.
Okay. One thing I do value on the two sites are ORIGINAL OPENING MESSAGES which there are a SEVERE LACK OF. The one everyone seems to go for is “What’s up?” and I’d be lucky if it was even spelt that well. Like I literally was replying to someone who had been asking how I was getting on on the site and I messaged them and complained about the whole “What’s up?” scenario. By the time I did that and got back to the inbox, a process which can’t have taken more than 30 seconds max, I had a message saying “wts up”. No capitals, no punctuation, basically no vowels for christ sake. Like seriously. These are dating sites. It’s not picking someone up on Bebo. A “wts up” will get you nowhere, especially not with me. I have a degree for christ sake. What concerns me more is both sites operate, mainly, through their respective smartphone apps. Most smartphones have dictionaries and spell the words out for you. The fact someone out there is still writing as if it is 2004 and we are trying to make messages as small as possible, whilst on a dating site and, I’d imagine, trying to impress someone is COMPLETELY beyond me. Like I can’t even START to comprehend that.
The other thing is the ABUSE I got on that site. I had joined Ok Cupid before after my break up with my ex but I got a lot of abuse from one user when I refused to reply to him. This is someone who had no photograph and nothing written on his profile. Like I will give people a chance but that’s a bit extreme, you joined a dating site and wrote not one single thing on your profile. I don’t even know why these people are allowed on the sites. Anyway this person sent me some nasty mail because I wouldn’t reply, it was exam season too, so I blocked and reported him. For him to make multiple accounts, a new one every time I blocked and reported him, if it was a him. At one point I had two or three accounts emailing me almost identical messages. Anyway, five minutes after re joining the site I had a message from him again. Same username and everything basically saying I seemed nice but if I didn’t reply it would say a lot about the kind of person I am. I replied saying something to the effect of “you sent me abuse on here before I would appreciate it if you would leave me alone”. To which he blew up, calling me fake, that I wasn’t real, that I was on the site to troll guys and so on and no wonder I was single and stuck on the site. This is the person who is still on there abusing girls for not replying 6 months after I joined in the first place. God knows how long he had been on there beforehand. It is my choice to be single. I am not on there to meet a man, if one came along I’d chance it, but that is not my goal. I have chosen to stay single. However it is no wonder someone like that is on there leading such a pathetic life if that is how they go on.
The other thing I am not getting, this is the thing I said I noticed mainly on the sites, is the fact that THE PEOPLE I HAVE NO INTEREST IN ARE THE ONES WHO MAKE AN EFFORT WHEREAS THE GOOD LOOKING ONES ARE LITERALLY THE MOST BORING.
Like seriously, there are guys on there who send me some nice messages, that put a lot of effort into them but it is just never going to happen because I just am not into them, or don’t fancy them or something. Like if I don’t feel a physical attraction to you it just won’t happen. I am kinda shallow like that but I believe attraction has to be there. But then the ones I do fancy, and who I message because their profiles seem decent and they seem like someone I can get on with… they just don’t bother. Like it is literally like taking blood from a stone. It is just not there. Like what am I meant to do because I am not one to settle, no way no how. Like one guy, I really did not fancy him, but his message started off so well. Then he asked what Game of Thrones house I belonged to… I love Game of Thrones, but that’s a bit much for a first message. I don’t want to be part of that intensity of a fandom just yet, and if I did I would have joined it on Tumblr a long time ago.
That’s the brunt of my rant to be honest. I want to finish by just kinda having a little moan about BOYS IN GENERAL. I really think they lack social skills in the way they go on and behave and stuff. Like boys would never think to say “I’ll be busy today so I will talk to you later” or to tell you something straight out instead of ignoring you for a week because they think it’s better, or they take stuff at face value when really it’s just a joke or think you will come out to them at 2am because they happen to be walking by your house.
A few guys have done idiotic things in my world lately and I just wanted to rant about it all. They’re just so stupid, even the really intelligent ones.
I would definitely expect another post about this in the next week. I don’t think I have let it all out yet. I need to start writing things down as they come to me.
Also, I know I have gotten better at posting lately but WORD OF WARNING it is my birthday this weekend and my graduation next week so posts will be thin on the ground. I will do a big post on each even soon after though to fill you all in.
Also I passed 1,000 VIEWS this week and I want to thank you all so much for reading and visiting the blog and supporting me. It’s great to have an outlet but also SO amazing to have people read what I have to say. I hope I can keep posting things you all like, if I am not, feel free to suggest things. 😀
I love you all SO SO MUCH!